In elementary school...you like someone, your friends tell him, he tells your friends he likes you, and through communicating through your friend...you two are "going out" but nothing actually happens.
In high school...you are blinded by your hormones, physical attraction is actually the only driving force. He thinks you're attractive too, suddenly you are a "couple". This "couple" is defined by the right to make out anywhere possible and trying to touch each other in as many unexplored places as possible.
In college...you fall in love for the first time. You are old enough to express your feelings for each other for the first time. Together, your relationship is full of memorable experiences mainly because at this age we are all doing a lot of life-changing things. You love the idea of what he is in that moment but have absolutely no thought for the long-term future. You forget to ask yourself realistically, "can he provide you with the life that YOU want?".
The beginning of adulthood...your sample pool of men that acquire the qualities you want is small, very small. Rarely you find someone that you "click" with. Then one day, you finally meet someone you can connect with physically and emotionally. This is great because not only are you attracted to them physically, you both have similar long-term goals and ideas on how you want to live your life. You like each other, that's obvious but it's not that simple. Is this person you want to invest time with? Is he someone you can see yourself making your life with? Unfortunately, at this point you are both trying to live your live, fulfilling personal goals and dreams...risking time and effort away from achieving these goals makes it impossible for you two to be together. Failure of past relationships (for both of you) and observations from surrounding relationships has made the idea of committing to someone even more unattractive.
...sample pool becomes even smaller...you know a few of "him" exists but will the 2nd and 3rd dimension of this universe be more forgiving in the future? How much tolerance do we have for this vulnerable feeling that we get from "love"/lust(whatever you wanna call it)~
