Friendship first

Friendships are like boy/girlfriend relationships. In both cases, there's a sense of mutualism and there needs to be a common ground of interest. My past experience with my ex has made me realize that infatuation is not enough to drive a long lasting relationship, but instead it is the ability to understand each other, share common interest and respecting each other that drives a long lasting relationship. I feel like a relationship is like a long-lasting friendship with physical attraction. If I had been friends with my ex and have gotten to know what is really is like I probably wouldn't have dated him, we started dating 3 days after we met, moved in together after knowing each other for 6 months (within that 6 months I was got for 3), we were so infatuated. I will never make that mistake again. It is so important to really get to know the other person and really spend time with them before jumping into such a big commitment. So now I just need to find a best friend, who is male, attractive, and attracted to me. This seems like a difficult task. In just a couple more days I can finally put the past 3.5 years completely behind me and get a fresh start. I have faith that things will work out smoothly in this upcoming decade!